In my previous blog, I made the case that sometimes the logical, moral, and practical option is to do B-minus (B-) work. This can feel excruciatingly difficult if you are tempted by perfectionism. I was reminded of this recently when I tried to write an article on...
Do not make any New Year's Resolutions this year. At least, not unless you're mentally ready for the commitment. How can you tell? Here are three tests: Test 1: Is your goal concrete and specific? A goal to do "more" with friends is vague. It would be better to plan...
Breaking Through Self-Limiting Beliefs Many of you have tried the "Judge Your Neighbor" technique for analyzing anger and defensiveness. I adapted this technique from Byron Katie, who has excellent questions for challenging premises and finding flawed reasoning. Just...
It's easier to think at your desk than on your feet. Knowing this, you can make it easier to follow through on your own good intentions. Good intentions often fail when "something" comes up. For example, you intend to exercise at lunch, but then at 11:45 you see you...
Doctors disagree on when to prescribe medication. Sleep experts disagree on whether you should take naps. Time-management experts disagree on whether you should schedule all of your time. Therapists disagree on whether you should trace issues back to childhood...
Launch: Coaching Calls FAQ What's the schedule for the group coaching calls? Will I get reminders? Calls are Mondays and Thursdays, at noon, 3:00 p.m., or 8:00 p.m. Eastern. A calendar with all of the coaching calls (which you can import) can be found on the Launch...
The Work of Happiness All Thinking Lab classes, bonus recordings, Thinking Day recordings, and Q&A call recordings will be posted to the podcast for this series as they occur until we finish up. You can either listen to the recordings in the embedded audio player...
I am halfway through The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person. Judith Beck's exercises, combined with MyFitnessPal, are helping me adhere to a lose-a-pound-a-week diet. I don't agree with everything in the book, but I give it a qualified...
Emotional resilience is your ability to recover a benevolent universe perspective after experiencing distressing emotions. After an incident that draws your attention to threats, problems, and difficulties, can you get back to seeing the world as filled with your...
There was a theme in the questions that members of the Thinking Lab asked me this week. They all involved some form of, "how do I motivate myself?" I've had an epiphany. This is a mistaken way to conceptualize the problem. Motivation is an effect, not a cause. When...
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